💖 Loving Yourself on Love Day (#Valentine’sDay)
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💖 Loving Yourself on Love Day (#Valentine’sDay)

Love Day is everywhere—hearts, chocolate, rose-scented everything—and meanwhile those of us living with MS are quietly wondering, “Can I trust my body enough for intimacy today?” MS has a way of turning our bodies into unpredictable narrators, adding hesitation to moments that are supposed to feel soft and connected. But what if love didn’t require perfection? What if intimacy wasn’t performance, but presence? This Love Day, we explore how to stay open, stay honest, and stay connected—to your partner and to yourself—even when MS throws plot twists. Because yes, you deserve love that meets you where you are… and celebrates you exactly as you are.

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What I Want More of This Year Living with MS
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What I Want More of This Year Living with MS

This year, I’m not asking what I want to achieve. I’m asking what I want more of … more joy, more presence, more self-care. After years of living with MS, I’ve learned that growth isn’t about pushing harder; it’s about choosing what truly nourishes your body, mind, and heart.

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The Year I Stopped Making Resolutions …
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The Year I Stopped Making Resolutions …

After my MS diagnosis, New Year’s resolutions felt impossible.

How do you set goals when your body feels like a stranger and your future looks uncertain?

For years, I stopped making them altogether. Then, slowly, hope returned — not the loud, ambitious kind, but a gentler one. That’s when I discovered a new way forward: intentions rooted in reality, compassion, and rhythm. This shift changed everything.

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The End-of-Year Ritual That Helps Me Understand My MS (and Myself)
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The End-of-Year Ritual That Helps Me Understand My MS (and Myself)

As the year winds down, I pause. Not to judge, not to fix… but to listen.

MS has taught me that reflection is a quiet act of self‑respect. So I ask: What carried me through this year? What drained me? What do I want more of in the next one… and what am I ready to let go of?

Maybe you’re asking yourself the same. 💭
Because new years don’t need resolutions, they need intentions that honor our real bodies, our real lives.

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